Monday, November 19, 2012
During the most "thankful" week of the year for those of us in the States (and ex-pats abroad) celebrating our traditional Thanksgiving, the images of a gorgeous set table loaded with that perfect turkey and "all the fix-ins" may conjure up bliss for many...but for those of us who are Celiacs or gluten-intollerant, this holiday of grace actually proves to be the most fearful of them all.
A good friend of mine was recently diagnosed as gluten-intollerant in the midst of a very challenging year of ongoing health issues. She's taken on the diet with a lot of grace and determination and yes, there's fear behind some of her efforts but she's educating herself and, therefore, eliminating the feelings of impossibility. She's trading out fear for hope and the belief that her body is responding and will heal. I'm very proud of her and wouldn't have imagined anything less from this woman...she's a warrior.
With that said, she called me the other day with a tinge of trepidation in her voice and before she even explained her thoughts, I knew it was the dreaded "what in the h*ll can I eat safely during Thanksgiving" call! Having myself been diagnosed with Celiac Disease in 2000, I clearly remember the first Thanksgiving meal my mother and I stumbled through while learning to substitute everything and terrified we would get something wrong. As the years passed our close family friends we grew up with, whom we've spent many a Thanksgiving meal, even began accommodating my diet in the midst of serving 15 others who were non gluten-free eaters. I recall that the friends who had a real grasp around how to cook were so gracious to accommodate my restrictions and would kindly set aside portions of mashed potatoes, cranberry, vegetables, using separate utensils and always with care. I will never forget their thoughtfulness and awareness even years ago before the gluten-free rage had arrived. It's the little things around a big holiday meal that remind me to be thankful to those who "get it."
I bring all of this up knowing there's a very real fear around social issues that arises when one is eating gluten-free and their life or health depend upon it. As my friend began to ask her questions around the topics of "what will I eat safely, how do I explain this to my in-laws, what will relatives think of me and my crazy diet?"...I could hear all the fear arise in her voice. Understandable. It's her first holiday sans gluten. My words in response to her questions were spoken from experience and learning the hard way, and I realized in the midst of our conversation that it was my blessing to be able to help her in every way that I can. I've been forwarding her lots of emails around gluten-free awareness, different cookbooks to try and tips for staying sane through the beginning stages of this new life. But all the "tips" don't give a person the self-confidence or trust when eating at a relative's home and out of their safe environment, now do they? Having had to break through that wall of fear and shame when ordering food out or eating in someone's home, I can attest to the fact that it's not easy. It takes courage to be "different" amongst family, friends and peers, but it's never a smart choice to sacrifice your health and well-being just to fit it...never.
Along the lines of "never"...I will never forget the day I was eating out at a steak house with a large group of family and extended family members. I was seated next to a relative (whom shall remain nameless) and when I was finished giving the waiter my very detailed and thorough gluten-free order (double-checking that he did understand me), my aunt looked at me and said, "wow, if I had to live and eat like you I would just slit my wrists!"...Can you just feel the love and support?! Given that my right hand was merely inches away from my steak knife I forced my hand back down to my lap, took a sip of my wine and smiled saying, "well fortunately for you, you can eat all the wheat you like." The irony of this story and example is that this relative was actually diagnosed as gluten-intollerant shortly after this lovely conversation took place :) Karma.
The best, seasoned Thanksgiving advice that I offered my friend and will reiterate here is this - be prepared and do not assume that anything you are offered at someone else's home or out at a restaurant is gluten-free. Ask many questions and know what is safe and what isn't, meaning know your ingredients...arrowroot is great for thickening gravy or sauce but NOT spelt!
Also, if you are eating at someone's home, do what I've done over the years - here's my best advice:
- Speak with the host in advance, alerting them of your diet and ask them to kindly walk through their holiday menu with you. Inevitably, there will be items you are not able to eat so fill in the gaps with gluten-free items you bring.
- Don't be embarrassed or ashamed to bring your own food: I recommend your favorite appetizer, small turkey breast, sides and dessert that's safe for you and just create your own plate. Keep it simple and fun!
- Don't EVER eat any turkey slices (even if the turkey is organic and GF) that has been cooked with stuffing!!!!!
- Ask your host to reheat your food items in separate dishes/plates.
- Remember to bring your own utensils, alleviating any cross-contamination issues (this is a biggie!)
- When it comes to dessert, either bake something in advance or pick up some gluten-free goodies or treats from a bakery you trust (visit: www.glutenfreetravelsite.com for restaurant/bakeries in your location).
When you're prepared you then alleviate the fear. And more than likely, the topic of your diet might even come up around the table in conversation. I've learned to use these discussions as a great opportunity to educate those who are asking and I guarantee that you'll peak guests' interests and they will pass along what they've learned from you out into the world. Use your time around the holiday table to be an advocate and when you do so with grace, the abundance of goodness will come back to you. I guarantee it.
Wishing you all a very Happy Thanksgiving that's filled with delicious gluten-free goodness, and that you are seated next to a relative who displays empathy and kindness :)
Friday, November 9, 2012
It's a wintry feeling night with cold rain falling and snow falling in the mountains. Not sure that I'm ready for the ensuing chill and layers of wool, but ready or not, here it comes.
In the shadow of the holiday spirit, which let me tell you is something I'm begrudgingly adapting to, it felt like the kind of evening to fill the house with the smell of cinnamon-y apples and spice. And since apples have been so abundant this fall it's the perfect fruit to create some delish and nutritious goodness from and so easy...and of course, sooooo gluten-free!
Baked Cinnamon Apples ~
- Gather half dozen fresh, organic apples (are were picked from a neighbors' yard!)
- Core apples making sure to remove the seeds
- Place apples in square baking dish and add small amount of water in dish to prevent apples from sticking
- Sprinkle apples with organic cinnamon, nutmeg and squeeze of lemon juice
- Bake at 325 degrees for at least 65 minutes
- Let apples cool on separate plate for 10 minutes
- Serve warm just as they are or add a dolop of creamy vanilla Greek yogurt
As I pulled the dish of beautiful little apples out of the oven the aroma was so wonderful mimicking the exact fragrance of a giant apple pie, sans crust. It's really quite something that our senses have the distinct ability to conjure up such instantaneous memories of holidays passed or special moments. I'm reminded of my grandmother's amazing talents in the kitchen and of her baking expertise. She would create a Thanksgiving dessert table that would have rivaled anything Martha Stewart created, with gorgeous pies and their perfectly shaped cut-outs of crust, cakes that were layered high and frosted with perfection, fudge, divinity and fruit cakes galore. It was always a feast for the eyes and the stomach. Special times to remember, indeed.
As I pull my cozy blanket around me to ward off tonight's chill while savoring my little baked apple, I'm reminded of the simple, sweet, good things that bring abundance to my soul and am grateful for tastebuds! On this night, take a moment to reflect on the gifts our miraculous bodies give to us each and every day...the little things we normally take advantage of and forget to stop and say a little "thank you" for...then go eat another baked apple...maybe this round, add some of your favorite gluten-free ice cream for good measure.
Goodnight and Happy Holiday (gulp) season to you ~